Giving our selves permission to let opportunities pass when their timing feels wrong for us, knowing that Spirit will continue to send us more/better opportunities until one that feels just right shows up.

Acknowledging that beginnings inevitably involve endings, we come to understand, to honor and to embrace the intertwining of grief and joy that we experience at such thresholds.

Choosing to become curious witness-observers exploring the intricacies of our own ways of being, feeling and doing allows us to become more gentle and generous 
toward our selves.

Choosing to listen to the quieter voice deep within that asks for us to go only as fast as the slowest part of us feels safe to go – so that we may be more gentle and cherishing of our tender selves.

Honoring the vulnerable parts of our selves by committing to listening to, comforting and providing for them whatever they need in order feel safe to move forward when they're fearful.

Honoring the courage it takes to risk living in the middle of our healing journey – learning to love, accept, know and enjoy our inmost selves – in a world that does not support or value this choice.

Framing more broad open-ended intentions (instead of specific goals, affirmations, visualizations) as a way of honoring that we may not yet know what's really right for the who-we-are-becoming.

Committing our selves to making room to safely feel all of our feelings, no matter how "extreme, unreasonable, immature, not like our selves" we or others may think they are.

Reminding our confused/doubting selves to stop doing, thinking, talking, figuring; remembering, instead, to take breaks, to make time to be still, to listen inward for 
the knowing in our belly feelings.

Opening our hearts to embrace our less than perfect selves with generosity and compassion, knowing that this is what will grow us, open us to deeper knowing 
and help us to heal our woundedness.

Recognizing when something we're engaged in is no longer (or not from the get-go) nourishing or enlivening to us; finding permission to stop or not to start engaging in these processes that feel like "too much work.”

Valuing the riches and rewards of learning how to enjoy being with our very own selves.

Discovering that as we come to value our own ways of being, no one else has much trouble with these ways.

Becoming more gentle, loving and generous with our frightened selves, especially when it appears "there's nothing to be afraid of.”

Valuing our inner timetables enough not to move forward with anything (however inviting) for which we don't yet feel ready or safe enough.

developing the practice of loving, cherishing, acknowledging and honoring our selves just exactly as we are right now.

Accepting that the dismantling of self-hatred is always an inside job and then devoting our selves to a daily practice of compassionately, unconditionally 
and fiercely re-mothering our selves.

Finding permission to give to our own selves the exquisite devotional caring we all too often give away to others (who also need to learn to give this kind of caring to
their own selves).